Divorce and separation can be one of the most challenging times in life, often not knowing what is in store next, feeling lost and in pain, lonely and depressed. Emotions are heightened and fuses are often short and explosive.
The top causes for divorce and separation are infidelity, communication breakdown, abuse (physical and emotional), money issues, sexual issues, child-rearing conflicts, addiction and incompatibility due to cultural or religious differences.
So it's obvious that if we, as adults feel like this, then our children must also feel the same and more:
- Confusion, "Was it my fault?"
- Blame, "If I was good then maybe Mummy and Daddy would still be together"
- Anger, "Why is Daddy/Mummy leaving?"
- Depression/anxiety/panic attacks
- Separation issues
- Bed wetting
- Wanting to run away
- Deterioration at school/bullying
- Poor school results and grades
- Their future relationships affected - higher risk of divorce
- Self Harm/Starving themselves leading to eating disorders
For small children, young children and teenagers, divorce and separation in the home can cause catastrophic implications and trauma. Now of course, it isn’t set in stone that all of the above or indeed any of the above will happen, everyone reacts differently to stressful situations. However, it is always prudent to know what help is available should you feel it is required.
evolve and aspire...to resolve, aims to remove the sabotaging beliefs surrounding separation and divorce so as to clear the way for a healthier co-parent relationship where the children feel safe and loved. Children can talk openly about their feelings; negative beliefs about themselves and the world can be discovered and removed. Positive healthy beliefs are re-imprinted leading the way to a better future for them. EFT techniques to rapidly resolve anxiety and stress are taught as a tool for life for all members of the family.
EFT can't save a marriage that's destined to fail and it can't break up a marriage that's destined to end but it does transform what can seem like a traumatic event into an opportunity for growth and the ability to move forward one step at a time.
If you or someone close to you is going through divorce proceedings or separation and you are worried about the implications on the children please do not hesitate to contact me
Face-to-Face sessions are available by contacting me and booking an appointment. Sessions conducted in Old Woking, Surrey. Private visits to your location available on request. Skype and phone sessions are available.